Lost thoughts: face value

I need to start seeing things sometimes at face value rather than what they could be. On the surface that sounds incredibly pessimistic. I sound unimaginative and unappreciative.

However, there is method in the madness. Sometimes I get ahead with myself what chance meetings and encounters can be. A friend? A boyfriend? Who knows? Therefore maybe seeing these meetings as just a meeting is the way forward. There is not expectation to connect. To talk again. To exchange numbers. And I like that. It’s totally chilled. To go forward with no expectation leaves room for no disappointment because you were never expecting anything in the first place.

My friend gently told me, when you’re disappointed it’s often because the expectation doesn’t meet the reality. It’s the shared visual not marrying up of want and desire. And that’s okay. Sometimes we expect more of people, experiences, food, money, time, problems, jobs, relationships. And that’s okay. Being able to take a step back and reevaluate or reassess really helps. This is not something I’m good at so I’m not trying to preach to the choir .