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Lost thoughts: unmeasured friends

Sat sweating this morning, running gear and blisters plastered to my aching body, we talked about love and life on the leather sofa littered with washing. My house mate was clad in pjs, the very battle uniform of worldly discussions.

She said about having people in your life who don’t drain you. I could not agree more. There’s very few people who I speak to, and don’t need to come away and vent. I feel refreshed and relaxed. I don’t need to unload. These people are who you need in relationships. They don’t create chaos, but they make you laugh and smile. They bring fun and joy, and will hug you when you’re down and cheer you when you’re ahead. They are buoyant. You don’t need to define your friendship with them. There is no sell by date, no deadline. You may not see them everyday but when you do no time has passed. The relationship is not competitive.

Because of these people you can put up with people who do drain you, not in a bad way but it’s just sometimes a lot. You can see them less regularly and in smaller doses. This is also a healthy relationship but just requires more work and time. Cheers to buoyant people.